5 Steps to make the transition from Wantrepreneur to Entrepreneur – with Andy and Dane

It can be a challenging path to change your mindset from being a wantrepreneur to an entrepreneur, but Andy and Dane have both done it, and now help their students at The Foundation to do it too. In today’s show Dane and Andy discuss all that they’ve learned personally and nail down 5 steps to changing that mindset to become a successful entrepreneur and maintain momentum in the tough times. You don’t want to miss this one!

In This Interview You’ll Learn...

  • 09:05  Why honesty is the best policy
  • 12:50  What stops people being real with themselves
  • 21:40  The differences between a wantrepreneur and an entrepreneur
  • 28:10  The book that changed Dane’s life
  • 33:50  The effect of parents
  • 39:45  Why “life doesn’t have to be a struggle and success can be effortless”
  • 45:48  Why kindness is important
  • 51:00  Community and how this helps

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Starting from Nothing – The Foundation Podcast
Guest Name Interview – Dane Maxwell
Introduction: Welcome to Starting from Nothing – The Foundation Podcast, the place
where incredible entrepreneur show you how they built their businesses
entirely from scratch before they knew what the heck they were doing.
Now, here’s your host, Andy Drish.
Andy: Welcome, welcome, welcome to another episode of Starting from Nothing,
The Foundation podcast.
Just first of all thank you all for the continual emails and text messages and
just support that you’re sending our way. It’s really, really incredible getting
your feedback.
Dane and I were just talking about some of the notes that we’ve gotten from
people and how some of these episodes have really shifted their lives just by
hearing one or two little sentences or little thoughts that just hit them at the
absolute right time. My intention for you is that you have one of those
experiences listening to this episode. So today it’s me and Dane riffing again.
We’ve done an episode on self-sabotage, we’ve done an episode on
alignment. These are two of the most popular episodes we’ve aired so far in
terms of responses that we’ve got from people. Today, what we’re going to
be talking about is how to make the transition from entrepreneur to
wantrepreneur. How do you keep from entrepreneur to wantrepreneur.
Dane: (Laughing)
Andy: How you can go backwards in time to where you’re struggling. We’re going to
talk about the transition from wantrepreneur to entre -- I can’t even speak at
this point.
Dane: Well, I think this is part of your unique genius, like, you slur words.
Andy: Combining words together.
Dane: There’s some magic to it.
Andy: Yeah, I think it’s a gift.
Dane: So what are we doing, Andy?
Andy: We’re talking about how you can start a company. (Laughs)
Dane: Well, actually, let me just tell you how to go from entrepreneur to
wantrepreneur.
Andy: Let’s hear it.
Dane: You just have to sabotage all your customers, never listen to them, put out
products that satisfy your ego, and don’t provide any value to the world.
Make the product all about you, make the business all about you, make every
problem all about you. And then when your product doesn’t work, resent
your customers and then send them ten job applications.
Andy: Sounds awesome.
Dane: (Laughing)
Andy: I wonder if some people are like, “Oh, it’s what I’ve been doing. It’s not
working.”
Dane: (Laughs) I’ll give you a huge hint. It’s never about you.
Andy: Ever.
Dane: If your product doesn’t succeed, it’s not a reflection of you. It’s your product
that didn’t work. It’s not you that doesn’t work. It’s a much deeper issue we
can go into later.
Andy: It is interesting separating your identity from the business. It’s kind of a
process.
Dane: It’s very easy once you see things clearly. But if you’re like -- it’s an emotional
issue. It’s a mind’s issue.
Andy: Totally.
Dane: And until you clear that, you can’t, like, experientially understand that. I
could create a hundred products, none of them would work, and I would just
be really pissed. None of them worked but I wouldn’t insult my identity, I
would just be like “Damn! Let’s go again. Let’s go again.”
Andy: Why isn’t this working? And then you’re curious.
Dane: Yup.
Andy: I think that’s one thing really unique about you is that you tend to, in that
frustration, get curious. And I notice that curiosity always leads to stuff versus
a lot of people get frustrated and they try forcing things and they just try
selling harder where they try -- and it just doesn’t seem to work, it keeps
them stuck.
Dane: Well, I can’t wait to talk about wantrepreneur from entrepreneur. It’d be a
good day.
Andy: We’re going to talk about that and one topic that we want to touch on. We
sent out an email a little bit ago asking for if you could ask us one question
what would it be? One common question that seem to come up, which kind
of surprise me, was people were consistently asking about how do you
maintain momentum and how do you keep going?
And this transition from wantrepreneur to entrepreneur, there’s so many like
dips and it’s such a roller coaster to get there. And how do you continue to
keep the momentum up going through those dips without getting blindsided
or sidetracked or in those ruts where you get stuck. So we’ll be talking about
that today, too.
Dane: I think I have like an instant answer for that.
Andy: What’s the instant answer?
Dane: Commit to speaking to one customer a day, every day, first thing in the
morning.
Andy: Interesting. Tell me more. Why is that the one answer?
Dane: Well, you don’t have a choice. Sometimes you can trust your feelings and
intuition and other times you can’t trust your feelings or intuition. You wake
up in the morning you’re like “Oh man, I really feel like staying in bed.” But
then like if you get up and work out you’re like “Oh man, I’m really glad I
didn’t trust my feelings and I …”
Andy: “I really feel like working now.”
Dane: Yeah. And so most of the doubt -- Doubt is the big killer. I’m reading an
incredible book right now. I’m only 30% in so I can’t speak too much into it
but it’s called The Great Work of Your Life. It’s how to discover your dharma
or your …
Andy: Who wrote it?
Dane: I’m not sure. It’s phenomenal, dude. It’s phenomenal.
Andy: It sounds good.
Dane: One of my good friends said she was in tears of the first chapter. She’s in her
40s and she’s rediscovering what her dharma or her purpose is.
Dharma is always a weird word to me but the way they explained it is like
dharma is your sacred duty, you know? What’s your sacred duty? Each brain
is like a unique fingerprint and each person has a unique sacred duty …
Andy: Yeah.
Dane: … to complete in this world. I’m up on a tangent. Where were we before I
just did this?
Andy: Momentum. We’re talking about momentum.
Dane: Yeah. And I don’t know what in the world that book had to do with anything I
just said. So just take that random fact -- maybe I’ll tie it back in. I don’t
usually do that without a point but committing to a customer a day.
Andy: Well …
Dane: And if you talk to them every morning --
Oh yeah, the great work of your life talks about doubt and doubt is not
actually … Doubt is actually paralysis between two decisions. Doubt is
paralysis more than anything. Wow! I’m going through two decisions right
now too, Andy, with direction. Where do I step up in The Foundation?
And so doubt is paralysis between two decisions. And the way that you cure
doubt as an entrepreneur is by speaking to your customer -- generally
speaking, especially when you’re starting out.
Our good friend, Nathan Latka, talks to a couple of customers a day. He’s a
CEO of a multi-million dollar company and he’s still talking to customers
every day. I guarantee you, your happiness will be better, your confidence
will be greater, your indecision and doubt will be lower. If you keep up
[unclear 00:07:03], talk to a customer every single day.
What do you do if you don’t have any customers? Talk to people who would
be your potential customers. How do you do that? Figure it out.
Andy: I thought the key to removing doubt is taking action?
Dane: Well, taking action -- I don’t know, dude. This is all new to me.
Andy: Me too.
Dane: The action for this case would just be talk to a customer every day.
Andy: It’s interesting because -- It’s true. I remember just … That was something we
talked about in the past of like in periods of doubt, just take action and then
see what happens, and from the momentum you’ll learn shit. And then when
you learn stuff, you have more data to make a decision.
Dane: I’m just muting my mic because my puppy is angry.
Andy: Turn that bark collar back on.
Dane: The bark collar got wet in the ocean.
Andy: (Laughs) Did it shock her?
Dane: Yeah, here’s Winny in the camera. Winny decided to -- she’s excited to go in
the ocean in her bark collar. No, it wasn’t a shock collar, it was the one that
beeps at her when she barks which was even better.
Andy: Got it.
Dane: So … there she is barking a little bit.
Andy: Yeah.
Dane: So welcome Winny to the podcast everyone. No official podcast studio here
at my new place in Cardiff but …
Taking action works. It’s just like even if -- How do you take action when
there is doubt? You can. I would have just like typically, like -- the action
would be like -- In that same day, Andy, I would figure it out, like the
customer would validate that action or not. So it’d be similar to talking to the
customer. Do you know what I mean?
Andy: Some sort of action in line with being in relationship with your customer at
some level.
Dane: Yes, yes.
Andy: Because at the end of the day, they’re everything.
Dane: What was the most [unclear 00:08:58]?
Andy: Let’s talk about dips.
Dane: Yeah. I love how random this is because you say “We’re going to want
entrepreneur from wantrepreneur.” And then now that we’re there we’re
going to take you from wantrepreneur back.
Andy: Yeah, you have to go the full cycle.
Dane: And then what do you do with the momentum? Like how do you keep up
your momentum? That was make a commitment to speak to a customer
every single day. And make the commitment to make that happen.
So, if you have life or death on the line, like if your mother, your father, their
lives were to be terminated if you didn’t speak to a customer a day or
something …
Andy: Here’s the thing. What about the person who’s listening right now and
they’re like “Dude, I don’t even have an idea yet.”
Dane: That’s an even better reason to talk to a customer. Can you imagine …
Andy: I don’t have an idea. How am I supposed to have customers?
Dane: So easy to me.
You can literally get away with almost anything as long as you’re 100%
honest. If you call up a chiro -- Let’s say you decided to call chiropractors and
you say, “Hey look, I’m calling up chiropractors. I want to talk to one
chiropractor a day and learn about your business. I don’t even have a product
idea, I just know I’m really passionate about chiropractic and I’d love to hear
what’s going on in your world.” You’ll find a chiropractor that will talk to you
with something like that, you know?
And then you just talk to him. “Look, I’m thinking about being an
entrepreneur. I’m really insecure. I work a full-time job right now. I don’t
know if I have what it takes to be an entrepreneur but I still wanted to have
this conversation with you.” That kind of honesty the chiropractor’s going to
be like “Damn!” And you know what? You’ll find a chiropractor that believes
in you. You’ll find a chiropractor that’s like “Oh, I want to help you become an
entrepreneur. Here’s an idea. Here’s an idea I’ve been thinking about.”
Andy: Especially when you talk at that belief base level where you’re like “Listen, I
just want to create a better life for me and my family,” or whatever it is. And
speak to them from that place because they’re doing the exact same thing.
That’s the exact reason they started their chiropractic business. When you
align at that core belief level, like everything else opens up and you don’t
have to worry about the strategies or tactics.
Dane: Yeah.
I think the coolest thing, Andy, like some of the greatest reliefs I’ve ever felt
in my life are when I realize that truly my greatest fears are actually, like, just
not even -- I want to figure out the right word to say it. I think the right way
to say is the greatest relief in my life is that the truth is relieving. That means
you don’t have to force, you don’t have to hide or you don’t have to try, you
literally tell the truth and it’s incredible. You’ll find a chiro that will like …
Well, you’ll find any …
And you know what the greatest thing is? One sec.
Andy: Yeah.
Dane: The greatest thing is? The most successful people on the planet, like people
at the top of their game, people like Andy, people like me, people that are,
like, really firing on all cylinders that are just -- And I say top of our gaming,
we’re on fire, we’re on purpose, we’re on passion. Yes we have our dips.
Guys like Andy and I, guys like that -- they win awards on stage or wherever
they’re at, those are the people that want to help you the most. The most
successful people are so passionate about helping other people become
successful.
Look at me. I had the software company like -- I didn’t have to do this. Look
what I have. That’s a lot of freaking work. Because I just believe and fight for
people’s potential, you know? God, I get emotional thinking about it, you
know? Just fight for people’s potential.
I want you to come to me and say, “Look Dane, I’m insecure. Look, I haven’t
started a business. Look, I don’t know what I’m doing. Look, I don’t know if I
have any purpose. Look, I don’t know if I have any value. Look, I’m not even
sure if I can even really love myself right now let alone believe in myself.
Look, I’m terrified of being a failure and I want to be an entrepreneur. Can
you help me?” My answer is hell yes.
Andy: What do you think stops people from living in that reality? Like why don’t
people actually come and bring that? Because it’s a consistent thing where
people hide behind business cards or websites, whatever it is, and they’re not
being real with exactly where they’re at. Why not?
Dane: Well, I’m going to do two things. I’m going to zoom out and makes sure we’re
still on purpose with the podcast.
Andy: Yeah, we are.
Dane: Okay. Two, I’m pretty sure you’ve actually got an answer and you’re just
being a ninja and asking me.
Andy: I’m being a ninja.
Dane: (Laughs) So, I’ve taken your ninja mask off and why don’t you answer that?
Andy: Well, for me --
Dane: (Laughs)
Andy: It’s so much more fun to be a ninja.
Dane: I’m so sorry. So sorry.
Andy: I messaged Dane on Skype the other day. I’m like “Dane, I’m a ninja with
humans.”
Dane: Yes, you did.
Andy: People don’t do it because they’re not confident themselves and they need
to compensate for something else.
Dane: You’re not there yet.
Andy: No?
Dane: You know it.
Andy: It sure feels that way. It feels like at the beginning, like, when you have no
business experience and you have no track record and you feel like no -- The
thing is you feel like no one wants to do business with you because you
should have a track record or you should be successful and that’s not
actually, from my experience, what people want. People want to work with
people they care about.
And if you have that, like, deep sense of connection of, like, you care and
you’re committed to creating solutions for the problems they have, they’re
way more open than trying to pretend that you’re more successful than you
are and putting on some sort of front because people see through it. Good
entrepreneurs will feel it.
Dane: Yeah. Say what your answer was again? Not confident, need to compensate.
Say, the way you said it again.
Andy: Yeah. People aren’t confident with the success that they’ve had and because
you’re not confident with that, you try and inflate something to make
yourself either seem bigger than you are or more successful or more
established because you think that that’s what people actually want when
you’re talking with them. You think that they want to be talking to, like,
another really established entrepreneur.
Dane: Yeah. And I’m going to say like that’s a pretty decent answer and it’s pretty
good. I’ll probably answer -- It may be a matter of context or semantics or
words. The way I will say it is that the competence and this and that is you
are completely backwards on where your personal value comes from.
Andy: [Unclear 00:15:22].
Dane: Well, you’re completely backwards that your personal value comes from your
accomplishments. So you’re completely backwards that your personal value
comes from the fact that you run a successful business or you’re completely
backwards that your credibility comes from credentials.
You’re backwards on the fact that where your value really comes from. And
you cannot get this until it becomes an internal experience, until you’ve
resolved it from a mindset level so that your body feels it. When your body
feels it, you’ll feel so much freedom.
Why is it that I could stand in front of anyone from Richard Branson, to
Barack Obama, to the homeless guy in the street and feel the same love,
maybe a little more excitement around one, but no, like, “Oh, they’re so
much better than me.”
Andy: Yeah.
Dane: It’s because I’m clear on where my value comes from. And my value comes
from the love I have for myself, the presence that I bring to people’s lives, the
care I bring to people’s lives not what. I mean think about your favorite
people. Andy, who’s one of your favorite people from your lifetime that
you’re always so happy [unclear 00:16:36]?
Andy: From my lifetime?
Dane: Yeah.
Andy: Like friends that I get to see?
Dane: Friends or family member that you’re, oh, you’re just so happy when you see
him.
Andy: Oh man. DJ?
Dane: DJ.
Andy: Yeah.
Dane: Is DJ, like, massively, financially well-off?
Andy: No.
Dane: No. Is he entrepreneur?
Andy: No.
Dane: No. Is he like a world-renowned at anything?
Andy: Maybe beer pong.
Dane: (Laughs) Yeah. No. But DJ is amazing, he’s so much fun. So why do you feel
like you trust him or why do you feel like …
Andy: I mean he’s been my best friend since college who you have that depth of
connection with somebody.
Dane: He’s your friend and he has value because you feel good around him.
Andy: I don’t think he has value because I feel good around him.
Dane: That’s true.
Andy: I just feel good around him.
Dane: Guess what I wanted to bring up with that point is just that …
Andy: But I’m not, like, seeking friends who have some sort of external value. Is that
what you’re trying to say?
Dane: Well, that’s -- yes. That was kind -- No. Yes and no. It’s more about DJ and,
like, the fact that, like -- If anyone on the podcast, if you’re wondering if I
could ever be friends with Andy which, by the way, I still wonder if I could be
friends with you. All you need to do is -- He just gave you a hint, just invite
him to play beer pong.
Andy: Not so much anymore. I feel kind of retired.
Dane: You’re retired?
Andy: You can text me though.
Dane: Well, so, I just want you guys to know that your value -- You’re not friends
with DJ because of his external. You’re friends with him for a different
reason.
Andy: Totally. It has nothing to do with that.
Dane: I just want people to understand that their value doesn’t come from anything
that they probably think it really does. It’s something so intrinsic and so deep.
And when you get to that unshakeable place you can talk to anyone and feel
amazing.
Andy: Dude -- and I think, at some level, that’s what the path of entrepreneurship is
all about, like tying it back. The path from wantrepreneur to entrepreneur is a
path of learning how to build a business but it’s also a path of learning your
own self-worth and discovering that and really getting in touch with it at its
core. That’s what you’re learning.
That’s like Randy Pausch, he did a video called The Last Lecture. Did you ever
watch this?
Dane: Mm-hmm.
Andy: Oh my God! So incredible. And he talks about head fakes. How in college, or
in high school, you play sports and sports are there because they’re fun to
play, right? But the head fake that you’re learning is like discipline, and how
to play well with others, and how to work in a team, and how to do stuff you
care about that, that’s the head fake.
In entrepreneurship the head fake is that you’re learning how to value
yourself and where your value comes from so that you can be more capable,
more confident human in all areas of your life. Not just business but
relationships, and health and fitness, and spirituality, all of them. But you
learn it the frame of business.
Dane: So can you wrap that up in like a nice bow for me?
Andy: Are you having a hard time wrapping your head around it?
Dane: Yeah. Well, just The Last Lecture; what you took away from it.
Andy: Yeah. The Last Lecture he talks about head fakes, right? Where you partake in
one thing but you’re actually learning something else along the path. Does
that make sense with you so far?
Dane: Mm-hmm.
Andy: So you play football because football is fun but you’re actually learning
discipline and how to work with the team and how to contribute to
something, how to achieve a goal. Entrepreneurship, you’re building a
business because you want the freedom, you want the financial abundance,
you want the lifestyle. But what you’re actually learning is how to value
yourself.
Dane: Amen. Hallelujah.
Andy: Got it? So the path from wantrepreneur to entrepreneur is the path of trying
all of these things and taking different action. And, at your core, the path to
entrepreneur is almost like a path of self-actualization at some level; of
understanding your own value and your own worth.
Dane: Is exactly what entrepreneurship is.
Andy: Totally.
Dane: It is no other thing to me but that.
Andy: And this is why The Foundation is so incredible and why I feel like there’s
nothing else in the world that’s teaching this type of stuff because we’re
teaching it at both levels. You’re not just getting the strategies and tactics,
you’re getting the fundamental core, underlying structures that show you
who you are and how you show up in the world and you get access to both.
And I don’t know of any other program in the world that’s teaching it this
way.
Dane: No, there isn’t. There can’t be. I just don’t think there -- For a number of
reasons, I don’t really care to get into.
Well, wantrepreneur versus -- wantrepreneur, not versus, wantrepreneur to
entrepreneur is -- if we boil it down -- Let’s just discuss this for a while now.
Andy and I had some disagreements about this this last week and it will be
fun to revisit it.
Andy, from your perspective, why is the person wantrepreneur versus an
entrepreneur?
Andy: When we initially started this, we talked about all the things that hold people
back. Like what is that holds people back when they’re getting started? Dane
and I, when we started, we were at a point where we had no business
success whatsoever, no connections with successful entrepreneurs, no
credentials to be starting a business, no special set of skills, no ideas to get
really started; starting literally from scratch. And I feel like these are all things
that hold people back. I don’t think like they’re at the end-all be-all.
When Dane and I were talking last week -- you talked about the notion of
people -- people just don’t want it bad enough. And there’s like an element
of that, right? Where you don’t want it bad enough yet, which is holding you
back, and for some of you, you do want it really bad and you’re taking all
these action but you keep getting stuck and you’re going in cycles. And you
almost go over the same cycle over and over to where you’re just, like, you
get to a point where it’s just so frustrating, right?
And then the frustration comes in. And when the frustration comes in and
you experience the same cycle over and over again, generally the logic that
you come to is like, “Well, maybe I’m just not meant to be an entrepreneur.”
And I think that’s the dangerous part because that’s where people end up
giving up.
Dane: Followed by “I just want something to work.”
Andy: Yeah. Yeah.
Dane: I could imagine if you really did want to be an entrepreneur and you really
wanted it really bad and you aren’t one by standard of having a business that
finances your lifestyle or -- that not really a definition of entrepreneur but …
Andy: It’s a fair one.
Dane: [Unclear 00:23:34].
If you are someone that wants it bad enough and you don’t have it yet and I
say that, I can imagine, you’re probably pretty infuriated.
Andy: Yeah, totally. Can you imagine somebody who’s like taking action every day?
Just being like “What do you mean, dude?”
Dane: You don’t know Dane.
Andy: What? Totally.
Dane: If you started four, five things and they haven’t worked, you are the issue.
Okay.
Andy: Just to be direct.
Dane: Just to be direct, you are the issue. It’s not about the idea, it’s not about the
tactics, it’s not about any of that. It’s about you.
Andy: When you say “you” it feels very like -- it doesn’t feel good. It’s not you, it’s
your thought patterns and it’s like the unconscious beliefs and patterns that
are, like, actually happening in your life that are holding you back. That’s
what the issue is. You’re fine.
Dane: Yeah. Yes. I love it because -- When I say it’s about you I say it very lightheartedly
with a smile. Like it’s you. It’s not you, it’s just your shit. It’s all the
belief patterns and mindset things and whatever you have that are causing
you to [spin 00:24:58]. Once addressed, the freedom you will feel is unlike
any freedom that you’ve ever felt in your life.
Andy: Because it’s not tied to anything externally.
Dane: Yeah.
Andy: Freedom is only a mental construct that holds you back. It is literally a frame
of mind. It has nothing to do with your bank account, it has nothing to do
with the business that you have or the relationships that is literally a
construct that’s in your mind.
Dane: So, if we go to the wantrepreneur -- make move from wantrepreneur to
entrepreneur, the first criteria, I believe, that supersedes all is 100% desire to
be one.
Andy: Amen.
Dane: Not 99%, not being a conditional entrepreneur. There are many conditional
entrepreneurs like “Oh, you got a business opportunity for me. Well, what is
it? Is it an hour a day? Can I do it when I want? Can I make as much as I want
for as little -- Oh sorry, not interested.” Conditional entrepreneur -- get lost.
Andy: Totally.
Dane: But if you’re an unconditional entrepreneur which means it doesn’t fucking
matter -- excuse my language.
Andy: Watch your language.
Dane: Yeah. It doesn’t matter the intensity, it doesn’t matter what your conditions
are, you create a business.
Andy: There’s no plan B with the unconditional entrepreneurs. A lot of people be
like, “Well, I’ll just try it. I’ll try it for a while and see what happens.” There’s
none of that.
Dane: And that doesn’t mean you go, “Okay, I got to leave my job. I got to lock
myself in my house and do it.” No, it’s more of like a state of mind. Like keep
your job. Just know that this business you’re going to have works.
Andy: It work. It will.
Dane: It will work. It will work or you’ll die.
Andy: How do you think you get that desire? How did it happen for you?
Dane: Well, most entrepreneurs, I think, is -- but I don’t know about most. For me is
it was anger. My mom and dad and I were out of dinner and like “Dane, what
are you going to do if this entrepreneur thing doesn’t work out?” You know
the story don’t you?
Andy: Mm-hmm.
Dane: How many times have you heard this shit? You’re going to be on your
deathbed. You could be drunk, passed out in a gutter and tell my stories to
me.
My mom said “What are you going to do if this entrepreneur thing didn’t
work out?” I looked at her straight in the eye and I had so much intensity that
would like scare you and I said “Mom, I will walk door-to-door to every
business in this city and sell them the website and figure out how to build it
before I ever go to a business on my hands and knees holding my hand out,
begging for a paycheck with my tail between my legs because I couldn’t
figure out how to add value on my own.” And there was a very intense anger
about where my worth came from, you know.
Andy: Where do you think it came from before that though? Because there’s like
moments when it’s created.
Dane: What do you mean?
Andy: Well, the desire to be an entrepreneur. You already had it at that point.
Dane: Oh, the book Rich Dad Poor Dad.
Andy: Why did you read that book?
Dane: Damn. I have no idea, dude.
Andy: How old were you?
Dane: I was 21.
I was in a college class and I saw a magazine and -- What a fascinating
question, Andy. A magazine that had the cover of the winner of the
Apprentice for Donald Trump’s thing. I was like, wow, I’d really like to read
about her. I can actually read about successful people that are really
successful. That sounds really cool.
Andy: Sounds cool, right?
Dane: So I read about it and she’s like “Oh yeah,” blah, blah, blah. I read like three
pages of the interview and all I remember was blah, blah, blah. And then at
the end she said “Oh, by the way, I read one book that changed my life -- Rich
Dad Poor Dad.” I was like “What? Books can change your life?
Andy: Yeah, dude. How old were you? This is 21 still?
Dane: Yeah.
Andy: Why do you think that attracted you? Why do you think seeing her on the
cover was like “Oh, interesting.”
Dane: Because -- Well, when I read Rich Dad Poor Dad and when I found out that a
book had changed her life, I had this like anger.
Andy: Wait, before that though.
Dane: Well, let me finish this thought just really quick. I had anger that’s like
something’s being kept from me. There’s information that’s being kept from
me and this makes me furious. I will find this information and I will devour
the planet until I do. Before that what had me pick up the magazine?
Andy: Well, just like -- you’ve probably seen hundreds of magazine covers in your
life but at this point, this one struck your interest. Why would this one strike
your interest when all the others didn’t?
Dane: Because I wanted to know what would make me successful -- I think. I
believe. And I wanted to know what it was like to be at the top.
Andy: Totally.
Dane: And I didn’t feel like I was getting that from anywhere. I had an innate drive
to be at the top. And now that, like, from -- I don’t think from an egotistical
perspective or from a hurt ego possibly but more just like, “Man, I just want
someone to tell me the truth and show me the way.” That’s what I wanted,
man. I wanted someone to tell me the truth and show me the way and I
would listen and implement and do everything they said and suspend my
disbelief and have an open mind. That’s one killer.
If you’re a wantrepreneur, you probably don’t have a very open mind. I bet
your mind is almost as closed as a box. It may not always be the case but,
man, most of the time you sit a wantrepreneur down and you’re like “Well,
you can do this and this and this,” and they’re endlessly unresourceful.
Andy: Yeah. It’s almost like they’re looking for all the ways that it won’t work.
Dane: Yup. Close box.
I’m the kind of guy that see -- I saw an ad on the internet “Make a thousand
dollars a day with internet arbitrage.” I was like “That seems pretty cool.”
Click on it. I was like, “Wow. I feel kind of like a sucker for buying this
product. But, you know what, I’m going to give it a shot because maybe I
don’t know everything.” A month later I was paying Google $400 a day and
making a thousand. Made like $60,000 in two months because I have an open
mind. I’m purposely gullible.
I will believe anything when you tell me it initially -- almost anything. Yeah,
everything. Everything you tell me I will believe as best I can, the best of my
ability, and try it on and actually use it in my life before I decide. Whereas a
wantrepreneur is skeptic or like “This doesn’t work.” It’s understandable.
They don’t want to be taken and looking like a fool. Well, who’s the fool?
That’s one thing.
Did I answer your question about why the magazine thing?
Andy: Fair enough. We don’t need to go that deep into it.
Dane: Alright.
Andy: It’s really fascinating tracing it back. Like as you’re talking about Rich Dad
Poor Dad I was like “Man, what’s the first book I read?” and I was like -- In
college I got The Success Principles by Jack Canfield and I just remember like -
- I remember a whole new world opening. Like a whole new world that you
didn’t even know existed. It’s almost like Harry Potter when he goes to this
little magic school.
Dane: Sorry to interrupt. What caused you to pick that book up? [Unclear 00:32:39].
Andy: Like my first mentor in my life was our Associate Dean of our business school
and he made us read it for his class.
Dane: (Laughs) Damn it! Okay. I was hoping for something better.
Andy: (Laughs)
Dane: When you felt it did you feel like “Oh crap!”
Andy: Holy shit! There’s like a framework for this. There’s this whole world. People
know this stuff. Like there’s a science to the art of achievement. Like holy
shit! I thought it just kind of happened. I was 18 at the time.
Dane: Oh my goodness. I remember reading Rich Dad Poor Dad and I was like
“Dude, I can be successful. Not only can I be successful but I can be freaking
loaded.”
Andy: Dude, right.
Dane: “I can be wealthy.”
I grew up with a household that -- Oh, man. My parents are incredible and a
lot of people wish they had my parents. I say that with this caveat but like,
man, I remember like taking the jelly jar. Did I tell you about this?
Andy: No.
Dane: Yes!
Andy: I can relate though.
Dane: One thing that Andy …
So I threw away the jelly jar when there was like hardly any jelly in it, you
know? And my mom, God bless her, she got caught in one of her triggers and
she’s like “Dane, you don’t throw those jelly jars away. You fill them up with
water, you shake the jelly around, you put it in a popsicle thing and you put it
in the freezer so you have a popsicle. When you grow up, you’ll know what
it’s like to have to scrape peanut butter from the bottom of a cup.”
Oh, she’s an amazing woman. I love her to death and I’ve completely forgiven
her for this.
We joke often about like, you know, parents were like “Well, it’s not a matter
if you’re going to screw up it’s just how much do you screw up.” As a parent
you’re like tired, all this stuff comes up. It wasn’t about her, it wasn’t about
me, it’s just about her traumas or her patterns, right?
Andy: Do you remember being at Landmark? Like way back.
Dane: Oh yeah.
Andy: This is like five or six years ago. We went to Landmark forum in Minneapolis
and I remember one of the parents after working through a whole bunch of
issues, she kind of looked at the guy and she’s like “Wait. So you’re telling me
that no matter what I do, I’m going to screw up my kids anyway.” The guy’s
like “Yeah.”
Dane: (Laughs)
Andy: (Laughs) And it’s true. It’s absolutely true.
Dane: I’d say the one thing that you can do to prevent that as best as possible is to
clear your own shit.
Andy: Yeah.
Dane: And the way to clear your own crap is to become an entrepreneur and take
action, face all your inner demons, stand up from the mirror, take a fearless
morale inventory and start knocking those things off one by one.
Andy: Dude, it’s fascinating. If you choose to take this path, you are literally, like,
course correcting the entire destiny of like your family legacy.
Dane: Yes.
Andy: If you’re one of the first generation entrepreneurs to take on this challenge
and to actually do this, it’s such a feat. Like it’s so absolutely hard to do. And
if you do everything, the future of your family will change forever. Because
you were probably raised with your parents’ mindset which is based off of
employee mindset, right? Where you’re exchanging time for money and
you’re scraping jelly out of the peanut better jar or the jelly jar and making
popsicles.
When you take this path on for the first time, you have to rewire your entire,
like, blueprint. Your entire code of how you look at the world. And when you
do that, you will be able to pass that on to your children because it will be an
unconscious thing. And I think that’s one of the greatest gifts you could
possibly give your kids is the mindset of this without having to go through all
of the struggle and stuff that you’re going to have to face.
Dane: Okay. So wantrepreneur versus entrepreneur. There are many things, boiling
down to 100% conviction to want it bad enough. Second thing would be like
open up your mind. Be willing to be a fool. The third is probably to find
someone who’s been there that you can follow. For me it was Rich Dad Poor
Dad, for Andy it was Success Principles. You can want it as bad as you want
but until someone really kind of shows you a path, it’s frustrating.
Andy: Totally. Here’s how I think it starts. I think it starts at, like, a really big level
where there’s a massive gap. So what will happen is you might pick up the 4-
Hour Workweek for the first time and you read the 4-Hour Workweek and
you look at Tim Ferriss and you look at you and there’s a massive gap in
between.
And so there’s this sense of inspiration or hope that you feel and there’s this
sense of like “Oh my God, he’s so different than me,” and this sense that you
can actually relate to them. And so as you narrow that path, you begin to
have more and more success faster and faster. Dane, you were that for me.
Dane was the first person I met who is, like, a young person in their early
mid-20’s making money as a business owner. And that’s why one of the
reasons I think we click so well.
That’s what we want to instill with people at The Foundation where you’re
paired up with the mastermind and a team leader who’s one or two steps
ahead of you.
Not somebody who’s making $100,000 a month because the person who’s
making $100,000 a month can’t even relate to the problems or struggle
you’re challenging right now or that you’re facing. But having that person
that’s two steps ahead of you to kind of show you the way so you don’t have
to hit the same pot holes and the same mistakes.
Dane: There’s so many ways I want to go down this.
First, thank you for the acknowledgement that it was so fun to meet you in
that space. I think not only was I making money as a business owner but
doing it in a way that, like, was inspiring too. So lots of business owners that
make money but are they happy?
Andy: I didn’t know any young ones, dude. I didn’t know any young ones and, like,
the whole caveat for me. My desire to build a business started in New
Zealand on top of a mountain when I was looking at the sunrise, feeling
pissed off that I was going to have two weeks of vacation for the rest of my
life per year and I would never be able to travel again. And that was like that
feeling of constraint was one of the worst feelings in the world.
And so the caveat with you is that you’re making money and it was all online
so you could travel and do whatever you wanted to. And that freedom was so
appealing to me.
Dane: Yeah, automated sale, reoccurring revenue, no accounts receivable. Which
building a business that makes money in that way is very hard but it’s only
hard because it’s a different skill set. It’s different skill set. Making passive
income is a skill that you can build. You’ve just been taught to make active
income your whole life.
So to make passive income, it’s not only a skill but it’s like a reversing of your
mind which took me about ten books to read to get my handle on.
Andy: But here’s the thing, once you get there, it’s there forever.
Dane: Oh yeah.
Andy: And once you get there you pass it down your children. Like you can hear it
when I ask Dane the questions of like “So, what if you don’t have an idea?
What if you don’t have this?” You’re like, “It’s just so easy for me. I would
just,” you know, and it’s so simple because it’s such an unconscious process
at this point.
Dane: Yeah, it’s so fun, man. It’s just fun.
Actually, I’d like to see if we could come up with some beliefs that we would
desire for people listening right now. And I want to start with the first one
was the jelly jar example was that life is terrifying, it’s successful. It’s hard to
be successful like not only hard but almost impossible to be successful.
That by the time I started becoming successful, like I get my first few
customers and doing like $4,000, $5,000 a month, you know? And then you
get up to $50,000 or a $100,000 a month which is my SaaS collection of
portfolio or whatever, and then all of a sudden you’re like “Holy crap! Life
isn’t terrifying." It’s not hard to be successful.
It’s almost like my mom did me a service because what she did is she instilled
the fear of God into me. Like “Dude, Dane, life’s going to be freaking
miserable. You better work your ass off.” And then I was like “Whoa! This is
way easier than I thought, mom.” Life is way easier than I thought.
So the first is that life is easy and being successful is easy. Now, are you going
to have some stuff come up along the way? Yes. But if you prefer to hold a
frame, life is easy. Which feels a little hard for me to say but success is easy
which feels like easy peasy for me to say.
So what are some beliefs that you would want to hold -- wantrepreneurs hold
or that would make it more peaceful in their process?
Andy: It’s super interesting hearing that stuff because when I’m like -- I have a hard
time resonating with, like, life is easy or success is easy. Even at this point.
Dane: Life is easy and a little tricky for me because it’s like, “Well, now you know
life’s hard, alright?” Like there’s like angry part of me that’s like -- I think
there’s got to be some people out there that -- maybe not.
Andy: Yeah.
Dane: What I want for people to know though is that it doesn’t have to be life -- I
think what it is it’s not life’s easy but life doesn’t have to be a struggle.
Andy: Yeah.
Dane: Life doesn’t have to be -- there you go. Life doesn’t have to be a struggle but
success can be effortless. Success can be flow.
Andy: It’s so interesting because experimenting with like flow and alignment and its
funny watching or just experiencing as you’re speaking about that.
Dane: I believe that success can be easy, man. I believe success can be fun.
Andy: I agree with you on that.
Dane: With the fun one?
Andy: No, both of them.
Dane: Okay. I love that you challenge me on it.
What I’m getting at with this is -- I just want people listening to know that it’s
possible. It’s possible for life not to be a struggle, it’s possible for life to be
easy. And, oh man, if you’re in a place right now where you’re like “You want
to say some customers with me Dane. You don’t know my situation.” You’re
right, I don’t and I get it because, you know, when I was starting my stuff up,
it was miserable at times.
Andy: Yeah.
Dane: Customer challenging your prices. I’d go fire up Xbox and, like, hide for hours.
Somebody’s like, “Dane, why are you charging so much money? You’re
basically just hosting my website. Why are you charging $100 when I can go
to GoDaddy for $8.” And I was on the phone with the person and I was like,
“Ah, I don’t know,” then I hung up the phone.
Then I called my uncle. I was like “Rob, this thing has happened and these
people who don’t think -- They’re asking me why I’m charging $100 to host
website and GoDaddy charges $8,” and my uncle’s like “Well Dane, you’re
not charging $100 to host a website, you’re charging $100 a month for a
recruiting system to help them recruit agents.” I was like “Oh.” Boom! Called
him back. I called him back and like “Ah, I know what it is.” But that’s the
part. It’s [unclear 00:43:35].
Andy: Yeah. So the point, like -- I remember working on this with Julie for the past
year-and-a-half and it’s just fascinating. I feel like I’m living in a totally
different reality because of it.
Dane: You are.
Andy: And it’s awesome. And all of the programming, like, all traces back to my dad.
Similar with you, like grew up working construction, everything in life was
hard. Work should be hard, work should be effort.
Dane: Yeah.
Andy: This is what happened for me is that anything that came easy I didn’t trust
because I was like “Oh, it’s easy. It can’t be real.” It must be a fluke, it must
be luck.
Dane: That sucks, dude.
Andy: Point being, you can create whatever life you want to. Like beliefs are not
true or false, beliefs are just beliefs, right? They just exist. They just are. And
so you can choose the beliefs that you want to have. This isn’t something
that’s going to happen overnight but it’s going to be a process. You can
create the reality that you want to live into.
And my reality right now, I think, is that it’s not always easy but the more
that I’m in alignment the more stuff flows naturally and the more that I have
to actually control thing, or the less that I have to worry about controlling
things, the more that I can allow things to just flow in and out of my life. And
it’s fun and that’s really fun.
I want to go back to the three things that we’ve got. So we’ve got an
unbending desire to create.
Dane: 100%.
Andy: 100% in, no outs, completely burning the bridges. Two, an open mind to
different ideas, different insights, different people, different thoughts. Three,
someone who’s been there to show you the path. What else?
Dane: Well, you can do it with just those three. There are other things that make it
easier but if the only one, like the bare minimum, that’s probably it.
Andy: I think you’re right. What else would you add to make it easier?
Dane: Self love, loving yourself, being kind.
I’m at a point now where I can spot it from a mile away. I was at a young kid’s
mastermind group and this 19-year old kid -- I can kind of get emotional
thinking about it -- standing in front of me and he’s like “I’ve got five startups
and doing this and this and this and this.” I can just feel his uneasiness in
being with himself. We got a chance to connect eye-to-eye and rather than
like analyzing him or like any of the shit I would normally do.
That was old Dane, by the way, Andy. I just like looked at him and I said
“Wow, you’re really inspiring to me.” I felt his body relax a little bit. I said
“You must be really proud of yourself to have so much going on. What
inspires you?”
And that guy is -- that frantic energy that he’s running with to create the five
startups, that’s what it feels like every day. When I tell you that the process
of creation can be done from an expensive, kind, loving, gentle space, you’re
going to get angry sometimes. But I’d say self-love and kind -- I think a better
word is just kindness for everything, especially to yourself; kindness to
yourself. Oh my goodness.
If you’re trying to be like, “You know what, I’ve decided that life will be easy
now and success will be easy,” and you start like chanting this stuff, that ain’t
going to work.
Andy: Come on. What about love attraction? I watch the secret.
Dane: Well, that’s exactly accurate. And if you say success is easy and there’s any
doubt in your body that’s a doubting vibration. It’s going to bring that more
into your life. There are things that you can do, deep emotional things you
can work. Mindset, [pre-wiring 00:48:13] things, you can do to get those
aligned. I think your grounded belief system probably is pretty nice for step
four.
Andy: I think for four, I think what it is, I think it’s an acknowledgement of what is.
So if you’re feeling frustrated, if you’re feeling insecure, if you’re going to
meet with the business owner and you’re feeling really insecure and you
acknowledge that and tell them exactly what is for you in that moment, I
think the key to unlocking everything else is an acknowledgement of what is
in the moment.
Dane: I would, yeah. It goes to the whole famous saying from the Bible “The truth
will set you free.”
Andy: Yeah.
Dane: It’s so amazing when students come to us in The Foundation like “Oh, this
person asked for my track record. What do I say?” You don’t have one.
Andy: Well, that’s true.
Dane: What’s true is you don’t have one and you’re going to hustle.
Andy: Yeah.
Dane: I remember -- And if a track record is important to them, it’s a deal breaker,
you understand.
Andy: Yeah.
Dane: And then let them walk.
Andy: Totally. They’re not a good fit and that’s okay.
Dane: Oh man, dude. I don’t think I ever told you this. Well, maybe I did but one of
my 5th or 6th customers, name is Gilbert. I sold a recruiting website and it was
like my 5th or 6th customer, right? Or maybe like my 30th or something. I can’t
remember the number exactly.
After I sign up as a customer I let out a holler. I sign them up and I was like
woohoo! Like sold them and then I like -- I think I had a razor, right? So I was
like woohoo! Like as I was closing it or whatever.
It wasn’t till like three years later that Gilbert told me that story. He’s like,
“You know, Dane, I knew that you’re a new business, I knew that you had no
track record, I knew that you were just starting out and I just loved your
enthusiasm.”
And I was like “Well, what did you think when you heard me holler after I got
you as a customer? Did you think that, like, oh my gosh, like I’m weak or
empathetic or like, oh, I have nothing, whatever.” He’s like “Dude, I felt
amazing that you were that excited to be working with me,” and I thought
“Dude, this guy’s got a lot of enthusiasm. I can’t really trust this guy.”
Andy: It’s so funny, we have it so backward.
Dane: It’s almost always backwards, dude.
Andy: Totally.
Dane: When it comes to, like, the fears and the limiting beliefs like -- You know, the
truth and the acknowledgement of what is is pretty good. You know what
came to me is I was like “You know what, Andy, I don’t know if that should be
number four or five or what, but community would be super helpful,
especially if you’re all alone.” Dude, I did it alone but that’s just because I
wanted it so bad and it was the most painful three -- grief comes up now --
three, four years of my life being alone.
Andy: Yeah. Yeah. It seems like that’s a solid number five. Because the community
will -- I think what that does is it keeps the swings that are massive, high
highs and low lows, and it brings them down a little bit so that your lows
don’t go as low. Maybe it doesn’t bring them all down. Your lows won’t go as
low because you have people there with you and people holding you up.
Dane: Well, that’s kind of interesting. Your lows won’t be as low because you’ll have
people with you. If that’s true, which I think it is, that still feels low.
Andy: Let me add one thing to that. There’s also, like, an element of -- When you’re
stuck, people can point out what is keeping you stuck. It’s really hard for you
to see it when you’re in it but somebody from an outside perspective looking
in can generally spot it pretty quickly. And so maybe it’s not that the lows
aren’t as low but when you get stuck, you don’t get stuck for as long.
Dane: I think I know what it is.
Andy: You go through it a lot quicker.
Dane: I think I know what it is in addition to that. I don’t think it’s about the feeling
you’re feeling so much as your judgment of the feeling you’re feeling. So like,
“Man, I feel like a coward on these phone calls. I feel like I’m intruding, I feel
like I’m interrupting.” And then the judgment of that is like “Oh gosh, I feel X,
Y, Z because of that,” and then it just compounds the feeling.
Then you go into a community and you’re like “Guys, you know what, I’m
feeling really insecure on the phone today. I feel like a coward, I feel like I’m
interrupting people,” and then like all of a sudden he’s like “Hey, me too.”
And all of a sudden the judgment of the emotion being wrong is gone. That’s
like a freedom around it.
Andy: Totally.
Dane: (Laughs) So wild. We had people on the -- real briefly. I know we’re at 11:10.
Andy: Yeah.
Dane: We had people on the last Foundation call, you weren’t on it Andy, but like --
This is an experience. What’s your greatest fear? What’s your greatest fear?
What’s yours, yours, yours? All five of them. One is that people won’t like me
for myself, another was that, like, I don’t have any value to offer anyone.
Let’s just go with those two.
The first person said people won’t like me if I’m myself. This girl just got
done, like, crying in front of like a hundred people and like revealing the most
vulnerable parts of her insecurities around being an entrepreneur.
And I said on the webinar I was like “Hey, does anybody, like this girl, not like
this girl after her showing who she is?” Boom! The webinar blows up and the
four other people that were on video were like “You are so likeable. You are
so lovable.” I was like “Hey, so your greatest fear is actually bullshit. You see
this. It’s gone. It doesn’t even exist. Only in your body it exist.” It will still be a
fear for her until she clears it internally.
The next person was that “I don’t have any value.” And then I was like “Hey,
has anybody gotten any value from this person just being herself and just
showing up and just sharing?” And everyone’s like “You’ve added so much
value to my life by just being yourself.” Just being yourself can add value to
people’s lives. In fact they’re craving for you to be themselves. Please be
yourself so you can at least be a little unique and add a little bit of the special
flavor to someone’s life. And then like their fears …
It was so cool, man. It’s almost systematic. What’s your fear, what’s your
fear, what’s your fear? Then have it just fall apart right away in the face of
the community who just loves you, and supports you, and uplifts you, and
picks you up when you can’t pick yourself up.
Andy: Beautifully put. It is time to wrap, ladies and gentlemen.
So that’s it, the five steps from going wantrepreneur to entrepreneur --
totally freestyle. One, have an unbending desire to make it happen. Two,
have an open mind to get there. Three, be working with somebody or have
somebody who’s already went there who’s a couple steps ahead of you to
help show you the way. Four, acknowledgement of what is in your life so you
can address what is in the present. And five, being with a community who
can hold you and help you and point out the areas that are holding you back
and really make your judgment of the experience that you have less so that
you can continue to move through it.
I think this might have been one of the best episodes we’ve recorded. That’s
pretty solid for riffing all off the cuff.
Dane: There’s a lot more steps, too, that would be super helpful. But those are our
five.
Andy: That’s what you guys get today.
Dane: If you want more, sign up and pay us money for The Foundation. (Laughs)
Andy: If you want to be part of The Foundation program, our next opening will
happen in November. If you go to thefoundation.com/summer-2014, we’ve
got a little opt-in box for an early bird list of people who are there last time.
We sold out in 22 hours, likely will happen again in November. So if you’re
interested, just make sure that you’re on that list ahead of time and that your
application has went through so you can get to it and review it. All of that
stuff.
Our classes are a lot smaller now. There are 120 now instead of 650 like they
were before. We’ve got mastermind leaders. We’ve really got stuff dialed in. I
deeply believe at the core of me that we’re building one of the best training
programs in the world for first time or first generation entrepreneurs. I don’t
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If this podcast has been helpful to you, we do this at the end of each episode
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Dane: No.
Andy: Haven’t gotten tired at all. Even though I got one last night at like 2 in the
morning.
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